They said “incurable.”

They meant the cancer.

But too many people hear that word and think it applies to joy, laughter, hope, love, purpose – it doesn’t.

You can still smile. Still build memories. Still belly-laugh. Still live.

Here are 10 truths about happiness they don’t tell you after an incurable diagnosis:

 Truth 1: Happiness isn’t cancelled.

A diagnosis changes the story, but it doesn’t delete joy from the script. Happiness still has a role to play — if you let it.

Truth 2: “Incurable” is a medical word, not a life sentence.

It describes the illness, not the quality of your days, your laughter, or your capacity to love and be loved.

Truth 3: Joy often becomes sharper.

When time feels finite, small pleasures grow larger. A sunrise, a conversation, a shared joke — they hit deeper than ever.

Truth 4: Happiness is a decision.

It isn’t a prize for good health. It’s a daily choice — and that choice remains firmly yours, no matter what the scan says.

Truth 5: Hard truths and happiness can coexist.

You can cry and laugh in the same day. Be scared and grateful at the same time. Life isn’t either/or — it’s both/and.

Truth 6: Meaning fuels joy.

Purpose, however small, is a happiness engine. A reason to get out of bed can outshine any prognosis.

Truth 7: Love refuses to be terminal.

Relationships, kindness, connection — these are immune to cancer. They deepen, they expand, they carry you.

Truth 8: The present is still yours.

The future might be uncertain, but today is non-negotiable. And happiness lives in today, not tomorrow.

Truth 9: You can still build a legacy.

Even if life is shorter, its impact can be enormous. Happiness often grows from knowing you matter.

Truth 10: You are allowed joy.

Don’t let guilt or fear steal it. Happiness is not denial — it’s defiance. It’s choosing light even when the night closes in.

One more thing….

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