I was recently asked how I motivate myself on the days when I don’t really feel like going for a walk outside.
It’s a good question because it gets to the heart of the related question, “Why bother?”
My answer is simple.
I made a contract with myself when I learned of my incurable diagnosis to always try no matter what.
Some days are a real effort but that contract is binding so I get up and out with no excuses!
Making a self-contract is a powerful way to keep going in times of challenge and stress. It is basically an agreement that I have made with myself to do something or behave in a certain way.
My own personal contract is a pact between me, myself and I. It’s a form of self-discipline.
I have made an agreement with myself to always get up and out. For me, this means a daily walk of a few miles to exercise mind, body and soul.
It’s more than just exercise though – it’s also staying positive and making sure my spirits always stay in the upright position.
When I stay at home, I can ‘think too much’ and that’s dangerous. I don’t want to dwell on my cancer diagnosis and what that all means. If I did, I’d probably get a bit inward and start worrying.
By getting into the fresh air I can get an instant hit of the feel-good factor and let myself breathe. It also motivates me to want to do more.
I get out and about and put the hard yards in to stay fit and well for my next treatment and that is a massive motivator too.
When I go into the ward for my treatment, I feel prepared and ready if I’ve done my daily exercise and kept myself positive. I’m not just expecting it to work without some effort on my part!
The contract I have with myself involves a total commitment to being optimistic, positive and hopeful in all situations and I take full responsibility for my responses, actions, reactions and choices. It’s a self-contract to live and never give up.
I’ve written my contract down and I display it where I can see it so that I read and say it everyday. I’ve signed it too just to make it official! If you want, you can get someone to be your witness to make it even more official!
I’m not sure that I needed to write things down though because it’s ingrained into my being.
I’m accountable for keeping this going and I have. I’ve not failed myself yet and I’m not going to let that happen.
I keep my side of the bargain. I made the deal so I’m keeping the deal! I’m true to my word and I know that I won’t disappoint myself.
The last thing I’m going to do is let myself down.
This is sustainable personal development because it strengthens my commitment to me because I have to show up everyday!
Getting a life-changing diagnosis makes a big impact on how you commit to life because at the back of your mind and at the front of your mind is the knowledge that one day you won’t be able to show up.
We have to make this count.