Chronic optimism is not your everyday, “think positive” slogan.
It’s deeper, stronger, and far more stubborn than that.
It is optimism that has set up camp inside you and refuses to leave – no matter how fierce the storm outside.
Unlike the optimism that only appears on sunny days, chronic optimism endures through downpours, storms, and hailstones the size of bricks.
It doesn’t rely on circumstances; it thrives despite them.
It’s not about plastering on a fake smile or denying the harshness of reality. Instead, it’s about choosing – deliberately, consistently – to see possibilities, even when life looks impossibly bleak.
Chronic optimism has its own personality traits, and they’re not soft and fluffy:
- Resilient – it snaps back after setbacks, refusing to stay down.
- Pragmatic – it doesn’t expect miracles to fall from the sky but looks for small wins that build into big ones.
- Contagious – it spills into conversations, lifting those who cross your path.
- Battle-tested – it’s forged in hardship, proving itself when life is at its worst.
- Quietly defiant – it doesn’t need to shout; it simply refuses to give in.
For someone living with head and neck cancer, chronic optimism is not optional – it’s survival gear.
This disease changes everything: how you eat, speak, socialise, and even how you see yourself in the mirror. Treatments can be brutal, recovery long, and anxiety about recurrence relentless.
This is where chronic optimism earns its stripes. It doesn’t erase the pain or the fear, but it sits beside them, keeping you company when the nights are long. It whispers, “Yes, this is bloody awful – but you’re still here. You’re still you. And you’re not done yet.”
It’s easy to assume optimism means skipping around in denial. Not for a second. Chronic optimism shows up in gritty, unglamorous ways:
- Turning up to every appointment, even when dread weighs heavy.
- Forcing down food when eating feels like punishment, because your body needs it.
- Finding humour in the darkest moments – the dry, gallows kind that makes you feel alive.
- Celebrating small victories: speaking a sentence clearly, finishing a walk, enjoying a cup of tea without pain.
- Looking forward to something – no matter how small – because the future still matters.
Why does this matter?
When illness drags on, and the days blur with treatments and side effects, chronic optimism becomes more than a mindset – it’s a lifeline.
It gives you a reason to keep showing up for yourself. It lifts the weight of despair, even if only by an ounce. And in a fight where ounces matter, that’s everything.
Optimism doesn’t mean you won’t feel fear or sadness. You will, often too. Chronic optimism simply means you don’t stay there. You acknowledge the pain, then carry on with a spark that says, “This is not the end of me.”
Unlike many chronic conditions, this one is worth catching. It requires no prescription, just practice. It grows with every act of resilience, every flicker of hope, every moment you refuse to let cancer steal your spirit.
Chronic optimism doesn’t guarantee victory over disease. What it guarantees is that you will live – fully, fiercely – in the face of it. It turns survival into something more: a story of courage, humour, and stubborn joy.
So if someone asks what keeps you going, you can answer:
“I suffer from chronic optimism. Doctor says there’s no cure – and I’m glad of it.”
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